small things

Less is definitely more. Something that maybe I should have realised a long time ago has come and hit me straight between the eyes. The amount of times I have stressed about helping people, and feeling guilty about not being able to help as much as I would like to... my friend broke up with her boyfriend of three years, and I sent her a text, and gave her a hug, and she said thanks for being so supportive. I didn't feel like I had done much at all, but she seemed to appreciate the fact that I cared, and that she knew that I would be willing for her to talk to me about anything. Also little things really make a difference. A smile, a little gesture of friendliness can be reciprocated in a grander gesture. For example, this week I bought someone a chocolate bar, to apologise for doing something stupid (not detrimental!) and they returned the gesture with a grander one- buying me breakfast today. which was really nice. It's not that I'm saying we should all do small gestures to get bigger ones in return, but that we should be open to small gestures of friendliness and kindness, and who knows what we will get in return, or if we get nothing, then at least we know we've done something nice for someone, and that they've appreciated it. I think that most of the time, I think about doing grand gestures, and things that are way out of actualy achieving them, but the smaller things, everyone can do. I know that some of you are reading this and thinking, how silly, I knew that ages ago, but seriously, I am a bit slow at understanding the simplest of things at times, and it takes me a hard llesson to learn that I cannot do everything I think I can. But this creates a positive out of a negative... we are not expected to do the things we can't do. We were created individually and uniquely to do the things that we were made to do. Its just now we have to find what we are good at, and go and do it! but at least we know that it will be something we really enjoy, because we were directly made for that reason and purpose.
Sometimes to say nothing, or little, is better than either doing a lot for someone, or just doing nothing at all. I think we need less stress and more achievable goals.